Danni Collaterali / Collateral Damages
Although today it seems that the armies ( at least those of some countries ) have available to smart weapons or so called such, that still happens to be affected are schools, private buildings and to die are civilians, innocent people.
Collateral damage almost always have a name, family ties and affective, a life, a story behind and a future that is denied.
The term "collateral damage" is a good term behind which society mask ( thanks precisely to phrases or words you searched ) situations or events that are actually negative for the people.
Collateral damage or innocent victims : the truth is always one but as so often is uncomfortable.